Chinese people tend to think Americans are rich and can't provide for us on their smaller salary. Compared to the way my husband grew up in post-Cultural Revolution China, the modest home I grew up in is a mansion.
He always paid on dates, but when he had the opportunity to get his research published in some professional journals and couldn't afford the fee, he was very hesitant to accept the money from me.
Jocelyn said that the guys that she's dated haven't come out directly to express their intent. They're slow and spend a lot of time texting and talking to show their interest in you.
Physical intimacy comes pretty slowly if the guys are serious about dating. My husband and I didn't even hold hands until our fifth or sixth date, and our first kiss was several dates after that. Although Hollywood's portrayal of us American women is taken by Chinese to mean that we're all "open minded" meaning you have a list of past relationships that numbers in the double digits or are open to one-night stands the guys worth pursing a relationship with will respect your boundaries if you're clear and upfront with them.
One of the first things I noticed about the younger guys in China are that they almost always carry their girlfriend's purse. It's kind of strange to get used to seeing so many guys with designer handbags on their arms, but they appear to do it willingly. When I asked my husband about it, he said he's never noticed.
